I want better he cant do it?

So I guess I asked my question wrong last time. I am a small girl 5 ft 100 obs work out atlest 5 times a week. I used to be more confident but I met this guy who doesn't rlly bring it out in me. When we have he gets off a few times and I rarely do. How can I boost my self confidence a little so I can feel y to (its nothing about my ) I know I'm in shape and tight.. how can I get better from him or have better with him so it feels better for me. I love to be in control how do I feel y enough to be though please hlp he doesn't even make me squirt